Remind yourself of your competence often and be positive and assertive in your decisions and actions. Try to trust your own judgment and inner wisdom, and draw from the years of experience you have to analyze how to move forward.
If you need feedback, find a few trusted mentors to give you a different perspective. But in the end, you need to make your own decisions confidently.
This will make you look and feel like a leader, which is attractive in any area of your life.
During a momentous battle, a Japanese general decided to attack even though his army was greatly outnumbered. He was confident they would win, but his men were filled with doubt. On the way to the battle, they stopped at a religious shrine. After praying with the men, the general took out a coin and said, “I shall now toss this coin. If it is heads, we shall win. If tails, we shall lose. Destiny will now reveal itself.”
He threw the coin into the air and all watched intently as it landed. It was heads. The soldiers were so overjoyed and filled with confidence that they vigorously attacked the enemy and were victorious. After the battle, a lieutenant remarked to the general, “No one can change destiny.” “Quite right,” the general replied as he showed the lieutenant the coin, which had heads on both sides
Make your own decisions to win!